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SACRED
RELATIONSHIPS:
STRESS OR STRETCH
By The Council through Juelle (April 2004)
With the completion of an
entire sequence of Ascension and the process of completing soul contracts,
questions are arising regarding relationships. This applies to all
relationships; partners, work, friendships and family. In most cases,
relationships are either stressing or stretching.
This is happening because like all other aspects of your life, how you have
known yourself, is changing, therefore the choices and the motivation behind
the choices are also changing. All parts of your life must amp up or take
the next step as you embrace a new phase of your journey. Everything is
affected.
The contracts you are completing (some of you are still in the process and
will be for a while) are karmic based. That is, tying up all the lose ends
from an entire soul’s evolution to this point, the culmination of many
lifetimes. Day to day choices have been motivated by what there is for the
soul to learn and to complete. People have come into your life to play out
many aspects of this contract and as the contract completes, so might the
relationship, in one form or another.
This next sequence of your journey is motivated by the pure joy of
experience and understanding. Remember also that the next sequence of
Ascension is about the consciousness of humanity. That includes you as a
front liner!
And so we say that relationships, in most cases are either stressing or
stretching. They may be stressing, because they must go to the next level,
step up and reach for a more expanded version and perhaps there is
resistance. They may be stressing because you are trying to hang on and make
them be something they are not intended to be. They may be stressing because
they are totally complete and once that happens, they go de-evolutionary and
everyone is miserable. Or
Relationships may be stretching as you reach for new and different ways to
walk into this next phase of your journey. They may be stretching in that
the prime motivator has nothing more to do with need fulfillment but has
everything to do with aligned purpose and mission. They are stretching
because everything inside you knows you must experience the spiritual
dimension of love.
To know pure love is to know Spirit and to know that you belong and are
connected to something bigger than the personal self. To NOT know this with
every fiber of your being, has been the great illusion, the karmic tangle,
source of pain and suffering. It has motivated the old contract of love as
need fulfillment, with the underlying FEAR of, “I am not connected, not
lovable, not loving, not good enough.”
In need fulfillment relationships, most typically, you will see a
play out of behaviors such as; seeking approval, needing to be right and
positioning around your “way that it is,” dominate or be dominated, care
taking and enabling as a form of control to insure love, competition,
judgment, ridicule and dream stealing, oppression and repression, give
me-give me-give me and it is never enough, fear of being alone,
rescue/victim, possessing and obsessing, power struggles, betrayal and loss,
settling for less, adjusting oneself to meet another’s needs, the price one
pays for love, the need to feel safe and secure, and myriad other
co-dependent and conditional behaviors.
Please do not just read this list of behaviors without thinking about it and
checking in to see if any of this applies to you.
Need fulfillment relationships are an attempt to combat the fear of not
being loved and the fear of not being connected. Eventually, behaviors such
as these engage in an attempt to secure and control love.
Now understand that it is fine to have your needs met in relationships, but
for folks like you, this can not be the prime motivator. In the end,
relationships of need fulfillment only will actually leave you empty and not
fulfilled at all. What you yearn for, crave and will probably chose to
create in this next phase of your journey, is a sense of the sacred in all
relationships.
Allow the “need” for love to melt from your experience because it is not
real. The need for love implies and sends a very strong message to the
creative universe that there is something missing. It implies lack, fear,
separation and isolation. We say the Need is not real because you ARE love,
you were made to be loved, to love and to be loveable your entire life. At
this time, many of you are overcoming the old contracts and the
childhood/adult/world conditioning you have experienced about love and
relationships. You are breaking through the psychological and emotional
barriers of what was modeled for you as you reach to create something new.
You are learning that love really is everything and now you stretch to
experience “coming home to love.”
As you stretch to experience sacred relationships, you will come to
understand the dynamics of being together are very different from need
fulfillment.
What motivates the relationship is not karma but rather a soul recognition.
You will love each other on your paths. You are each others best
cheerleader. You will support each others dreams and visions and ask “how
can I help you?” Respect, honor and trust is the foundation for life
adventures. You chose co-creation and collaboration rather than competition
and domination. You share power by recognizing when one or the other is to
take the lead in different situations. You support each other rather than
enabling and dis-empowering each other. Gratitude, generosity and the
ability to receive are in balanced mutual flow. You know the other one will
be there tomorrow, no matter what and you do not have to put it to test. You
stand in your true spiritual sovereignty, complete and whole in yourself.
You do not need someone else to be the source of your identity or be the end
all --be all for you. But rather, the other person is your friend, your
partner, your joy and your compliment.
Is it possible that such sacred relationships exist? Of course. With your
children, with your friends, with your primary partners, with your
workmates, you will stretch to experience this sacred holy ground, called
relationships.
Now what if you are in some relationships that do not reflect these
qualities? Does this make the gap between the soul’s yearning and current
reality, even more painful? These are good questions, with no simple
answers.
We will offer a few suggestions.
First remember that some soul contracts are completing. Let them complete
with as much grace and ease as possible. Try not to make the relationship be
wrong in order for it to be complete. This is tough stuff since it deals
with the human heart.
Keep in mind some people are just doing the best they can, whether it
matches your vision or not. You don’t have to throw them away because they
can not give you what you want. Look for love in all the right places, that
is, where it can be found and stop trying to get it from some place that
simply can not provide it for you.
Remember also that completion can look a lot of different ways. For example,
many people are experiencing parents and loved ones passing on. This is a
rite of passage and an enormous completion. It is not intended to put a hole
in your heart that will never mend. You will feel the loss, indeed, but you
also will eventually feel the release and the honor of assisting your loved
ones into the next shining leg of their journey. It is the same for you.
Another example, some people are needing to let their children have their
rite of passage. It may be time to let them take responsibility and stop
enabling them, which really is about control and not recognizing their
strength and power. Let yourself and them, reap the rewards of a job well
done. This is completion. You will always love them, support them and be a
voice for them. But now, they must go learn to stand in their own
sovereignty.
If you have an old pattern of being in disrespectful relationship
situations, this is a good time to say “No more.” It requires courage to
step out on this one, since it may mean quitting a job for instance or
facing certain situations or finding your voice. How can the Universe match
for you what you want if you keep settling for less? It is powerful action
when you make a choice for what is in your heart’s vision. Sooner or later,
outer circumstances will begin to match up to your vision and that gap
between what you know is possible and what manifests will become closer.
If you can, have a discussion with the one you love. Discuss what positive
action you each can take to best support each other in stretching and how
best to support the relationship to grow. Agree to disagree. Agree to listen
to each other and really listen. Agree to reach for better ways of
communicating, so that you both speak from your soul and not just from some
of those old fears.
Keep creating in your day to day life what sacred relationship means to you,
whether anyone responds at the moment or not. Eventually, your intention
will move the entire Universe to rearrange itself to match what you are
putting out there! And before you know it, you are playing with awesome
relationships in your life.
Love the spirit of the Divine that you are, enough to make choices for
loving relationships to manifest in your life.
COMPLETION EXERCISE: Do this on your own or do it with a friend. It is
powerful energetic work on the spiritual plane. Who you see here will, in
some way, feel the impact of this exercise.
In quiet meditative state, closed eyes, imagine one by one, on your mind’s
screen, all your relationships that are ready for a shift in one form or
another. Have each person appear one by one and imagine a brilliant golden
white light streaming in from behind them. This is the light of Divinity
that has come to shine a light on the subject.
As you speak, soul to soul with this person, tell them everything you want
to say. In some cases, this relationship may not have been the easiest. You
can express that and then follow it with gratitude for what you learned and
maybe even forgiveness.
Some people may appear on your screen simply because it is time to expand
together. Talk with them about that.
Be willing to speak your heart with each of these people, giving thanks that
life and relationship with them as you both have known it, is now complete.
Be willing to explore new ways to be in relationship if that is appropriate.
After each discussion, repeat to that person on your screen “all karmic
contracts are hereby dissolved.”
Then allow them to go into that golden light behind them, free to express
whatever is next for both of you, free in the light of Divinity.
And so it is.
Relationships give you an opportunity to express love, not just an
emotion, but a state of being. Relationships are a reflection of love of
source, love of Spirit, love of life.
It is not the feeling, that love in relationships bring to you that you
crave, but rather, it is the all permeating joy that love creates.
Loving, joyous sacred relationships is your birthright. It is a natural
expression of the Divine within you. Courageously stretch. It is as life is
intended to be.
With Eternal Love,
The Council and Juelle
We are here in support of your lives and the
co-creation of Heaven on Earth. We love you infinitely. The Council
Reprinted with permission
from Juelle Wilkins, author of "The Walk-In" [see
Books-Soul Awareness]
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